DO YOU LOVE ME?

DO YOU LOVE ME?

“Do you love me?”

This phrase enhances

all mystical depths and

countless nuances

down through

the centuries.

“Do you love me?”

“Simon, do you love me?”

Jesus asks Simon Peter,

walking along the seashore,

past nagging awkward shadows

of Simon’s cowardly denial,

“Peter, do you love me?”

“Do you love me?”

Tevye asks Golde, after 25 years

of marriage,

as they

fiddle on the roof

of volatile reverses,

eking out a living

in awkward Anatevka.

“Do you love me?”

Elizabeth Barrett Browning

wrote to Robert,

“How do I love thee?

Let me count the ways.

I love thee

to the depth and breadth and height

My soul can reach….

I love thee freely….

I love thee purely….

I love thee with the

breath, smiles, tears

of all my life;

and, if God choose,

I shall but love thee

better after death.”

To know

that you have loved;

that you have been loved…

to know

that you remain loving;

to know,

even when deprived of love—

when tricked and betrayed

by lesser loves—

that you

love deeper still

without hesitation—

that, dear soul,

is to know

the deepest joy

of humankind.

So, says the Nazarene Lover,

“Let us

love one another

with depth

and integrity…

Love one another

as I have loved you.”

Hal Edwards

Wauconda

January 15, 2015

IT’S SO GOOD TO KNOW YOU ARE: An Ode to a Person’s Best Friend

IT’S SO GOOD TO KNOW YOU ARE:

An Ode to a Person’s Best Friend

Just being you,

Close by,

Or far away,

Accessible,

Available,

Opening your heart,

Listening deeply as I

Sing

My song,

The only song

I know how

To sing.

It’s the knowing

That counts—

Knowing we

Have integrity,

Conferred from a

solidarity of

Spirit and energy—

Knowing how

To remain present

In our togetherness

And

In our

Respective

Separateness.

The mutual trust

That we preserve

And partake

Through thick and thin,

The quality and continuity

Of our comings and goings,

The solid friendship

And

Depth of reliable

Self-disclosures—

Ah, the elixir

Drawn from

 a thousand trials

And ten thousand

restorations!

Ours is a wealth

That money can never buy;

What we experience

In our bond

May outlive gravity

And death.

There is something

Eternal in the quality

Of what

Happens

In a particular moment,

In our union.

It’s so good

To know you are

There,

and

Here,

Being true to yourself,

To your own destiny,

Being yourself with me—

My soul friend

And companion

On the Way.

 

Wauconda

March 11, 2014

Hal Edwards

MUSINGS FROM MORTON

Morton T Kelsey was my teacher, mentor, spiritual director and friend from 1974, when I first studied under him in graduate school at Notre Dame University, until his death in 2001. Morton Kelsey bequeathed me his unpublished writings, lectures and notes, including his personal correspondence with C G Jung, letters including dreams that determined the future direction of his vocation.

MUSINGS contains selected insights, stories and data that focus on the importance of our encounters within the spiritual realm, specifically through the practicality, mystery and guidance one may gain in various ways through dream work.

MUSINGS FROM MY MENTOR MORTON

Morton T Kelsey

Morton T Kelsey, image source: Dale Matson

 

FIVE ESSENTIALS FOR MATURE AND GROUNDED SPIRITUALITY

1.  TRADITION– Build upon the foundations laid by others who came before us: cultural realities, roots that shaped those times, the life and teaching of spiritual leaders through the centuries, historic documents, historical human development, religious traditions, creeds, historical religion.

2.  MYSTICAL EXPERIENCE– Direct encounter with Divine Presence; symbols, active imagination, sacraments, deep rooted and ancient rituals, personal numinous experience of Divine Presence, prayer with and without images, transpersonal encounters.

3.  HONEST SCIENTIFIC REASONING– The scientific method is one valid way for accumulating knowledge.  Spirituality need never be mindless or superstitious.  When new data emerges, we must find a new hypothesis, always leaving room for new truth to emerge.  Even so, nothing is more sterile than pure thinking void of spiritual experience combined with psychological insight, an awareness of tradition and genuine compassion for other people.

4.  PSYCHOLOGICAL KNOWLEDGE– There must be a balance of interrelatedness between psychology (who I am) and spirituality (Whose I am).  While psychology by itself is not enough, faith without self-knowledge is also inadequate for modern humanity in search of one’s soul and psyche.

5.  A CIVILITY THAT GENUINELY CARES– To love and care for others we must first take good care of ourselves.  In the words of Jesus of Nazareth, “Love others as you love yourself.”  It is impossible to love other people if we do not love and care for ourselves.  We cannot give what we do not receive.  We cannot reproduce what we do not model.  Our primary prerequisite is to grow and heal and serve out of the overflow.  We cannot guide others further than we are willing to grow ourselves.  Out of such responsible, accountable, conscious and proactively healthy self-caring we can then reach out and connect with others who may eventually choose to benefit from our hospitality, generosity and consciousness.  In this way we build more reliable networks of compassion and a depth of loyalty that withstands every storm that will come.

(Hal Edwards has paraphrased and updated Kelsey’s Five Essentials To Mature Spirituality, found in his book, Companions on the Inner Way, Crossroad, NY, 1983, p. 43ff.)

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LISTENING IS OUR KEY TO CONSCIOUSNESS AND COMMUNITY

“Real listening is a kind of prayer, for as we listen, we penetrate through the human ego and hear the Spirit of God, which dwells in the heart of everyone. Real listening is a religious experience. Often, when I have listened deeply to another, I have the same sense of awe as when I have entered into a holy place and communed with the heart of being itself.”


TEN STEPS TO LISTENING, BY MORTON KELSEY

“It is impossible for us to love other people unless we listen to them.”

 (Excerpts) Page 67ff.,

CARING: How Can We Love One Another?

by Morton T. Kelsey

1. CEASE TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF AND BE SILENT: Obviously, we cannot listen until we stop talking.

2. BE SILENT WITH THE OTHER PERSON IN AN ACTIVE WAY: open, active, receptive, alive, without letting your mind wander or daydream. Keep eye contact, let your body language tell the person you care.

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